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Divorcing children when adoption goes wrong

To Georgia couples who have difficulty conceiving, they have to think of alternatives to have children. In most cases, adopting is that option. Adoption can be an exciting time in a couple's life, as they are expanding their family. However, adopting a young child often comes with many challenges. Many of these children, especially ones from other countries, have already faced hard times with their birth families and are unable to bond with their new adoptive families. When these children get out of control, what options do these families have in order to protect themselves?

Once the adoption process is finalized, the agencies rarely follow up because the kids are considered the adopters' legal children. However, there are many couples who must deal with the adopted children's mental issues for many months or years after the adoption. Some have attachment and bonding disorders, ADHD, schizophrenia and other mental illnesses that can lead to violent outbursts. These children - as young as toddlers - can be seen terrorizing the parents, the family pets or other children in the household.

What happens when these adoptive parents have done everything possible to improve the situation? In some cases, therapists have recommended that parents rehome the children, claiming that some children simply cannot adjust to being the oldest one in the family or cannot be in a home with other children. Is this a valid reason for adoptive parents to give up on a child they made a commitment to raise?

Many equate the rehoming of a child to a divorce - in one case, a couple is giving up on a marriage and in another they are giving up on a child. However, raising a child from birth is different from raising one from its toddler or elementary school years. Those who are rethinking their adoption should discuss their legal options.

Source: Huffington Post, "Un-Adopting: Is Divorcing Children an Acceptable Option?," Mirah Riben, Jan. 20, 2015

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